Simple Self-Confidence Tips #4: Expand Your Comfort Zone

Your comfort zone is one of the most important things you need to understand in order to become a self-confident person. Your comfort zone is what you do on a daily basis: all things that you are used to. If you want to become a more confident person, you need to break out of your comfort zone to experience new things and get used to them.

You feel shy when you aren't used to something. It makes you feel nervous, uncomfortable or awkward. If you deliberately put yourself in such situations on a regular basis, you will get used to them and they will no longer make you feel insecure.

Here are a few examples...

If you are afraid of job interviews, you reduce your chances of getting a better job. Do you really want to be stuck at this job that you hate? If not, then it's high time you expand your comfort zone. Send applications to as many employers as you can and go to as many job interviews as you can. Thanks to that, you will quickly learn how to behave, how to deal with stress and how to make a good first impression which will sooner or later help you find a better job.

If you are a virgin and you are afraid of having sex, read this blog post to learn how to become a better lover (you will learn how to start and finish the right way, including tips on how to deal with premature ejaculation which is very common among virgins).

If you are afraid of approaching women, it will be very hard for you to find a girlfriend because you will have to rely on your friends (friends introducing friends of friends). Going out to approach women (which is VERY difficult at first) will teach you how to deal with approach anxiety and how to talk to girls to get their numbers and meet with them later.

As you can see, your comfort zone is the answer to most, if not all, your self-confidence related problems. Focus on improving your comfort zone and you will increase your self-confidence dramatically.

The best idea is to make it a routine. For instance, you can set a goal to approach at least 50 women within the next two months. This means that you need to approach one girl a day. If you keep up with that, you will quickly become quite good with approaching women which will dramatically improve your social confidence.

Simple Self-Confidence Tips #3: Be Positive

What is one of the most important secrets of self-confident people? They are all very positive people!

If you want to make things happen, you need to believe in your skills and believe that sooner or later you'll achieve what you want to achieve. And do you know what? This is the exact definition of self-confidence!

See, true self-confidence can't exist without optimism. If you were a negative person, who would like to spend time with you? Do you know any people who enjoy spending time with people who bring negative energy? If you were a negative person, would you set goals and believe that you can achieve them? Why would you even bother with setting goals if you are sure that you won't achieve anything? If you were a negative person, would you be able to give a good first impression on that girl you approached on the street?

Now imagine that you are a positive person. When you approach women, they want to talk with you because they feel that you're a fun guy to be around. When you talk with new people, they want to get to know you better because they feel that you can be a good friend. When you set new goals, you know that you WILL achieve them so... you achieve them. That's how it works!

Your beliefs create your reality. If you want to become self-confident, you have to get rid of your old negative beliefs and create new, positive ones. Instead of thinking about what is wrong with things, think about what is right with them (such as "it's quite warm" instead of "it's warm but cloudy"). Instead of complaining, practice gratitude. Instead of being jealous, admire other people.

Last but not least, as we mentioned earlier, nobody wants to be around negative people. If you think about a self-confident person, do you picture him or her as a person who doesn't have a great social life? Exactly - and that's one of the most important reasons why today's tip is extremely important.

Homework for today: get rid of all your negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. You can read some books on how to become a more positive person, subscribe to some blogs about being positive and/or simply learn how to enjoy your life more (that will automatically make you a more positive person).

Good luck and have fun with that - life's much more fun when you enjoy it as a positive person!

Simple Self-Confidence Tips #2: Be Prepared

If you were to ask a shy person why does he or she feel shy, you would get dozens of different answers. However, in most cases all shy people feel shy primarily because they aren't used to something or they don't know how to act or what to do or say. That's why we believe that being prepared is one of the most important things you need to take care of if you want to become a confident person.

Imagine that you're walking down the street and you see an extraordinarily beautiful girl - the girl of your dreams. What do you do? If you're shy, you probably don't do anything (and lose a great opportunity). If you're confident AND prepared, you're going to talk to her and find out if she's interested in you as well.

What can you do to take the advantage of this opportunity even if you consider yourself a shy person? It's simple - be prepared. You can read a list of things to say to a girl you don't know (so that you won't make excuses that you don't know what to say), you can read some books on how to approach strangers, you can prepare yourself mentally to always look for new opportunities to improve yourself.

Being prepared is also about your comfort zone. If you constantly do the same things, how do you expect to be prepared to react well in a new situation? Since you don't put yourself deliberately in situations which require learning something new, you don't know how to react. And that makes you feel shy, nervous and/or awkward.

We're going to write more about comfort zone in the future but for today we want to point out (and it's extremely important) that if you keep doing the same things, you keep getting the same results. You feel shy because you aren't used to new things (aren't prepared to deal with them). You aren't used to new things because you don't do them. Simple.

Your new homework: always be prepared for new situations.

If you have a new job interview, read a book or two on how to make a great impression.

If you have a first date, take care of your breath, eat lightly, relax and think about logistics (are you going to drive, where do you want to take her, what will you do if you connect with her and you want to have sex with her?).

If you want to go out and meet new people, learn how to approach them and how to make small talk.

Good luck and remember to have fun!

Simple Self-Confidence Tips #1: Know What You Want

Here's the first simple tip which will help you become a more confident person: know what you want.

Most people are looking for ways to become more confident, yet they don't ask themselves the most important question first: what is your goal?

If you don't know what you want, how do you know when you're going to achieve it? Most guys who want to improve their confidence around women say something like "I want to become successful with women". What does it mean for you? What exactly does it mean to be successful with women?

Here are a few examples of good definitions of "I want to become successful with women":

• I'm able to approach every woman I find attractive, no matter where I am.
• I'm in a serious relationship with a girl to whom I have great connection.
• Every day of the week I fuck a different woman.

There's no judging here - we all have different definitions of "being successful with women". Set your own goal. Once you know your goal, you'll know when you achieve it and you'll have a rough idea on how to achieve it.

In the case of the first definition, you have to start approaching women in all situations. Your approaching skills will be very important here so you may find this article - How to Approach Women - very useful.

In the case of the second definition, visit places where you can meet a girl of your type. If you're into intelligent women, visit museums, operas and other alike places. If you're into physically fit women, start jogging in the park, go to gym etc.

In the case of the third definition, night clubs are probably your thing so you need to visit them at least a few times a week to create a "database" of fuck buddies.

Of course the same advice applies to everyone else and every other goal related to self-confidence. We don't talk only about women and sex here.

Say that you're a woman struggling with shyness. As a result of your shyness, you don't have a great job. You want to get a better job, but you're afraid of interviews, getting to know other people and learning new things. What do you really want to achieve?

You want to become comfortable in every work-related situation such as interviews, introducing yourself to your colleagues etc.

Now that you know your specific goal, you can think of ways on how to achieve this goal. In this case, you have to focus on expanding your comfort zone which simply means doing things you're afraid of: attending interviews, getting to know new people, learning new things.

And that's our first simple self-confidence tip. Now it's time for you to specify your goal. Good luck!

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